Sympathy, however well-meaning, can at times add to misery – something that Vijay Shankar is dealing with as he tries to move on from a "disheartening" off day that nearly cost India the Nidahas Trophy final against Bangladesh.
While Dinesh Karthik became the toast of the nation, with a last ball six in India's triumph over the South Asian rivals, 27-year-old Shankar was lambasted for his 19-ball 17, that included four successive dot balls in the 18th over.
"My parents and close friends didn't say anything as they knew what I was going through. But I get these text messages like 'don't worry about what's being said on social media', when I actually want to move on. They perhaps think that's the way to show sympathy but it may not work," the all-rounder told PTI.
For Shankar, the final was an off-day that marred a good tournament in which he returned with decent figures with the ball.
It was an off-day for me but I am finding it difficult to forget it. I know I need to move on. I had a good tournament until that final day.Vijay Shankar, Indian Cricketer
The Chennai player was practical when asked about being pilloried on social media.
"I need to accept that these are things that can happen when you play for India. The same social media would have gone berserk had I won the match all by myself.
"The opposite happened and I have to accept all the brickbats. That's also a part of growing up," Shankar replied calmly.
There are times when getting out for a duck in a close encounter allows someone to go under the radar but Shankar doesn't want any safe passage while trying to chart his own destiny.
"Had I got out for a second or a third ball duck, no one would have bothered about my performance. But then would I have liked that to happen? Certainly not. I would rather accept this situation.
"You just can't think of safe options always. You have to accept challenges head on," Shankar said.
But he does accept that it was a missed opportunity to become a hero in a tricky chase.
“When everyone was rejoicing after the final, I was feeling very disheartened at how things panned out. It was an opportunity given to me to become a hero. I should have finished the match,” he said.
"Everyone in the team, including my captain (Rohit Sharma) and coach (Ravi Shastri), told me that it can even happen with the best and I shouldn't feel bad," he said.
Asked about the mistake that he made, Shankar pointed to his attempts to go for big hits rather than rotating the strike.
"If you take a look at my batting in the Syed Mushtaq Ali or Vijay Hazare Trophy, I don't play so many dot balls. I rotate the strike but Mustafizur (Rahman) really bowled well during that over," he said.
While everyone spoke about the dot balls, hardly anyone noticed his boundary bisecting the point and short third man, which made it easy for Karthik to launch a final assault.
"DK just told me one thing – hold your shape (in cricketing parlance maintaining the balance in one's stance) and hit a boundary. That ball from Soumya, I was trying to just put bat on ball," he said.
In the Indian team, opportunities are few but Shankar is not worried about the fact that primarily he is being seen as Hardik Pandya's cover.
"The selection thing is not my concern. The positive part is that IPL is starting in two weeks' time and my focus is now to do well for Delhi Daredevils," said Shankar, who would like to pick chief coach Ricky Ponting's brains.
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