Haryana’s skewed child sex ratio, deeply feudal and patriarchal mindset, crimes against women and girls, and the infamous khap panchayats form the stereotypes of the region. But, with women sportspersons nurturing considerable fame, Haryana is turning into a land of paradoxes. On one side are the structures of inequality transcending gender and caste, and on the other, women who are thriving. They are choosing to study, work and live life on their own terms.
Photographer Kashish Badar portrays these paradoxes for Quint Lens in essaying the story of Kavita Yadav, a 40-year-old resident of Manethi village in Rewari, Haryana.
Kavita, like many other women in her village, performs multiple roles. Feeding the buffalo, milking her, and cleaning the house comprise Kavita’s mornings. After freshening up, she makes breakfast for herself and her father-in-law. Taking care of the farm is an integral part of Kavita’s life.
The only sister of three brothers, Kavita was married when she was 18. Her husband is a CRPF personnel, and is away from home for most part of the year. Her elder son is in the army, while the younger one is studying at the University of Delhi. Kavita has her 85-year-old father-in-law for company.
Her father-in-law has always been kind and has treated her well. On the other hand, her mother-in-law was a very strict woman.
She wouldn’t let me go out with my husband when we were young. There were many times when my husband wanted to take me along to the city he was posted in, but my mother-in-law always refused.Kavita
She has spent all her life in the village, and now feels uncomfortable at the thought of leaving it.
- 01/03Kavita admits feeling lonely every now and then as she makes rotis on a hearth. (Photo: Kashish Badar)
- 02/03Kavita in the midst of preparing a meal for two: her father-in-law and herself. (Photo: Kashish Badar)
- 03/03Kavita smiles in her kitchen while explaining the sense of freedom she feels to do what she likes, go where she wants and spend how much she chooses. (Photo: Kashish Badar)
Kavita is happy and satisfied in her village now. She is free to do the work she likes. She can go out whenever she wants, meet neighbours and enjoy her life. Her husband and children love and respect her. "Though I feel a little lonely at times, but my husband will soon retire from his job, and we will be together then”, she says.
Twice or thrice a week, she makes a round to her khet (farm), roughly two kilometre away from her house, to get fodder for her buffalo and take care of the crops. She walks on her way and back from the farm, carrying 30-35 kg of fodder on her way back.
Bathing the buffalo is her favourite part of the day. “She needs to be taken care of like a baby. From her food to her hygiene, everything is important.” The buffalo is one of the main sources of her income. “I spend my earnings in ways I want to. I save some and spend some. When my mother-in-law was alive, I wasn’t given a penny.”
Time alone has given Kavita the chance to think for herself and about herself in a place not always kind or fair to women. Though she has made a happy, comfortable life for herself, if given a chance, would she change anything?
I regret not studying when I had the opportunity. It’s because I was not educated that people oppressed me. I did not have a say in any decisions. If I had a daughter, I would have made her study and work outside the house. I would have made sure she doesn’t get entangled in a similar life.Kavita
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