Sexolve 33: RainbowMan, I Get Aroused When I See Dogs Mating

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Is it normal to get aroused by animals mating? (Photo: iStock)

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This week’s Q&As below:

I Get Aroused When I See Dogs Mating

Dear RainbowMan,

I am quite ashamed to write this to you. I have been very very fond of dogs. And I get aroused when I see dogs mating. I click a video of mating dogs and masturbate to it. I feel like having animal sex sometimes. Sometimes, I think I want to try a similar position with a girlfriend. How do I cure myself? Am I weird?

Doggy Shot, Bombay

Dear Doggy Shot,

Come on. Many people have many fantasies. What’s weird to me, may be fantasy to you. So don’t allow my judgements determine your thoughts. Let me tell you that there are many people who love watching dogs, cats and horses having sex and they masturbate to that. They might not be candid enough to share, but many of us, if not all of us, have feelings that are different and unique. People get aroused by various things and there is no one size fits all here. So chill.

Regarding doggy-style sex, well that’s a position that also finds its mention in sex manuals. There is nothing weird as such with that.

Regards,

RainbowMan

I Have A Foot Fetish

A good looking pair of feet are enough to give me an orgasm. (Photo courtesy: Pixabay)

Dear RainbowMan,

I am a 20 year old boy. I have a foot fetish. I like feeling someone’s feet and that is enough to get me an orgasm. Even when I go to a shoe shop, if the attendant or sales person touches my feet, I cum instantly. It is way too embarrassing. I feel like this with male and female people both. So, basically, if the person has good feet, I get an orgasm quickly. Even in office, when my colleagues accidentally touch their feet on mine, I get an orgasm. I am really fed up.

Footsie, Chennai

Dear Footsie,

Darling, we all have different forms of fantasies. We also have our ‘sensitive' points where we get aroused easily. Some like a little tongue on the ear lobes. Some find the touch of the hand on the belly quite orgasmic. Some get a high when someone feels up their hair. There are different ways in which people get a sexual high. For you it is the foot. What’s happening to you is completely normal.

About your involuntary orgasms, I think that is also normal. But if It is bothering you too much, try focussing on something that you like. Is there a sport that you play? Is there a dance school that you would want to join? Or say the gym?

It will help you keep your mind busy with other things. And in doing so, if this thought of their feet comes to your mind, please don’t panic or think of avoiding the thought. Let the thought come. Remember to see the thought and mentally say good bye to it. I mean, don’t oppose the thought or resist it, just let it pass. At 20 testosterone levels are quite high. I also used to get erections at the slightest provocation. Now it is better, it will get better for you too.

Smiles

RainbowMan.

I Am An Ex-Call Girl. How Can I Reclaim Myself In Society?

Being in the sex industry, how should I go back to find a place in society? (Photo courtesy: iStock)

Dear RainbowMan,

I have dark secret buried inside me. I am a 29 year old Indian girl living in a foreign country. When I was in college, I was in need of some money, and thought that I could get into the sex business. I earned quite well. After college, while my friends took different courses, I took to prostitution. Today, 10 years into this business, I am finally looking for a change. I am not sure if I will have a place in society if I come back to India. Will I be labelled a slut and ostracised? What do you have to say?

Past Perfect, Somewhere

Dear Past Perfect,

I am not referring to the tense when I call you past perfect, I am giving you a message, that indeed, your past is perfect. There is no one who would be allowed to label you as anything. It is your body, you should have the right to decide whatever you want to do with it. You choose to trade some of your sexual feelings for money, if it is solely your independent decision and not a road that you are forced to take, the ‘others’ should have no business interfering with you.

Regarding social ostracisation, well, people have a lot of issues in life. Whether in India or in any other country, people have reservations marrying people or being friends with people who are in professions that are risqué. For instance, my friend is a para-diver, hence she did not get any lover. There is also a woman bar tender I know, who has been labelled as a ‘bar dancer’. Well, nothing wrong with being a bar dancer, but these are techniques to demean women and to ensure that they are kept under the thumb. The only way to deal with them is to keep doing your thing without bothering about it.

Remember, what others think of you is none of your business. So live life the way you want, with whosoever you want, or live single all your life. The choice is yours. I don’t say that it will be easy. I am telling you though, that you will be happy being yourself rather than being the way society wants you to be.

Smiles

RainbowMan