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Yes, parents shape the lives of their kids, their personalities, and the people they become. But how deep do the fault-lines really run?
On this week's episode of Not Fine, Thanks, we ask two young Indian millennials, Nidhi (28) and Aparna (29), if they think their childhood relationship with their parents has impacted their future romantic relationships, their expectations from their partners and how they approach conflict.
FIT also speaks to psychiatrist Dr Ruksheda Syeda to help decode the phenomenon of attachment styles.
Aparna says that she has inherited her father's short temper, and it frustrates her when people point out that she's 'behaving like her father,' when things get heated in conflict.
"Because that's exactly the thing that I don't like about my father," she says.
She says this is the reason she was looking for someone with a calmer temperament.
Nidhi talks of her childhood where she feels like she grew up emotionally detached from her parents in a household where expressing emotions was not commonplace.
"In all of my relationships, partners, I have gone towards a desire for intimacy, often leading to severe attachment issues," she adds.
"Every time I meet someone new, that becomes a checkbox that the person needs to be emotionally available," she adds.
Speaking to FIT, Dr Ruksheda Syeda explains that abuse can be of different types, and that even neglect is a type of abuse.
"Abuse can also be a real or a perceived aspect of it. If my parent is scolding me, my parent may not be very angry with me but I am perceiving it as anger and hostility so that's also a trauma," she explains.
Tune in to listen to the full conversation!
Not Fine, Thanks is the Quint's new podcast series where host and health reporter Anoushka speaks to young Indians about everyday mental health. Catch new episodes every Wednesday.
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Published: 24 Aug 2022,04:48 PM IST