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Turns out, Tamil Nadu Governor Banwarilal Purohit pulls no punches. Filled with the milk of human kindness, this gentleman doesn't hold back.
Recently, at a press conference, right after the esteemed gentleman had warded off a stream of questions regarding allegations of sexual misconduct against him, he decided to let loose the touchy-feely grandpa in him and pat a senior journalist on her cheek when asked a final question.
'Decorum' and its ilk are clearly man-made boundaries for a man whose paternal instincts are brimming over. He wears his grandfatherly affections on his sleeve and showers journalists with appreciative pats, lest they feel like they're missing out on unwarranted physical contact.
Mr Governor, humour me.
Then, he leaves.
Does your heart, at this point, melt with reciprocated affection?
Does the “pat” make you feel all warm and fuzzy or does it make it you feel violated?
Sir, you are in a position of power. And while your actions might have been completely “innocuous”, it sets a dangerous precedent for others who might not have similar intentions.
You've apologised and said that it was a ''grandfatherly gesture''. You did not want to let her journalistic efforts go unnoticed. Thus, you reached out and ''patted'' her cheek.
You see, the operative word here, as you yourself have used, is ''journalist''.
None of us have the right to invade her personal space.
A while back, when George H W Bush was accused of groping multiple women, his spokesperson claimed that ''he had patted women’s rears in what he intended to be a good-natured manner.''
Similar accusations. Similar responses.
In 1989, the late KPS Gill was awarded the Padma Shri. This was after he was booked for allegedly walking up to a woman officer at a party and slapping her posterior without her consent.
She is a journalist and a woman at that. She is, in all probability, already braving battles given the current socio-cultural landscape. As a public figure holding a position of power, would you really want to add to her troubles?
If women keep putting up with assumptions, ''pats'' and comments related to their bodies, we don't know what else they will have to keep tolerating in the near future. Your ''affectionate'' gesture is yet another microaggression that, this time, a woman refused to put up with.
How are you making amends?
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Published: 18 Apr 2018,10:10 PM IST