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That is what one of the only two rape survivors who deposed against self-styled godman Gurmeet Ram Rahim Singh – chief of the Dera Sacha Sauda – told The Hindu in a telephonic interview after the conviction of her rapist. According to The Hindu’s report, the CBI had convinced 18 women to provide evidence against the godman, but only two ultimately did.
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The survivor deposed against someone who had already proclaimed himself a guru, one, who – for innumerable crazed followers – spoke like a messiah. He was – like many men and women around the world, who preach the word of God, are – infallible.
For Laxmi*, a God-fearing woman who has spent much of her life in one tiny Madhya Pradesh hamlet, her life revolved around the two worlds she'd carefully crafted for herself – the one that involved her husband and two children and the one where she’d assimilated herself into her village community, through occasional visits to the mandir and speaking up at council meetings. Then, one afternoon, almost six years ago, her worlds collided with a heavy, sickening thwack.
The local pandit of her village barged into her home on a day her husband wasn’t there and raped her. Laxmi turned up at the police station with a bloody head (he’d hit her on the head with a cane) and a bloodied body.
Laxmi was afraid for days, weeks, months after. She still is.
Her apprehensions weren’t unfounded. Within a few weeks of registering the FIR, the pandit’s henchman beat up her husband almost to the point of death. Says Laxmi’s husband:
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A Madhya Pradesh-based NGO called ‘Jan Sahas’ stepped in with a sewing machine to help the duo make a living and also provided them legal assistance over the years. Six years (and no headway in her case) later, has the trauma shaken Laxmi’s deliberately crafted sense of community?
Laxmi gets angrier through the course of the conversation.
Laxmi refuses to associate her rapist with the God she prays to.
Esha*, at the age of 13, was harassed by a Catholic priest at her school in Durgapur, West Bengal.
“ We used to go for Saturday Catholic classes which, I remember, would take place between 7 in the morning and noon. Right before that, there would be confession sessions where we would confess to a priest,”she says.
Esha was eventually approached by a young Catholic priest who had singled her out amongst all her classmates. “I was around 13 years old and I didn’t know better, so I gave him my phone number.” But things quickly went south from there.
Esha never told anyone what happened, but she remembers the particular priest being transferred to another location within a year.
“Perhaps someone else complained; there may have been rumours. All I remember is that he left without fanfare. There was no ceremony as is usually associated with the transfer or moving away of a decorated priest.”
Did the incident scar her faith at a tender age?
“I remember questioning everything – everything the school’s ‘sisters’ and 'fathers’ were preaching to us. If someone who was expected to adhere to a code of conduct behaved this way, then who should I confess to? A lot of my religious beliefs at the time faltered.”
Esha now works for an NGO that facilitates the rehabilitation of rape survivors, and encounters stories of harassment everyday.
Esha is currently an atheist, but she doesn’t hold the harassment responsible.
Anitha* didn’t struggle to talk about her trauma when it happened; perhaps because, at the age of five, she was far less conditioned to feeling shame or to fear the incredulity of an audience who'd be prone to believing their community messiah.
The larger impact of the harassment, however, hasn’t left her in 20 years.
Anitha lost no time in telling her mom – except that she didn’t know what exactly to tell her. “I just know that it didn’t feel good and it didn’t feel right.”
No action was ever taken against her molester. But Anitha was able, over the course of time, to distinguish between the God she prayed to and the self-styled men of God that she saw the rest of her family pay obeisance to.
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