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IMHO, Bisexuality is one of the most misunderstood sexualities in the LGBT community. People think of bisexuals as people who are perpetually “in a phase” who will come out on a later stage as either straight or gay. “They will finally make up their mind”, “they are just horny people who want to have the cake and eat it too”, “they are unfaithful people who wish to double date” - all these are judgements that bisexuals are subjected to. Even in gay dating apps like Grindr, there are profiles that explicitly mention “bisexuals and cheats don’t contact”. Bisexuality is as natural as homosexuality or heterosexuality or any sexuality.
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It’s a sexual orientation looked askance upon by heterosexuals and homosexuals.
I know many people were offended when I asked if Deepa Mehta’s Fire was actually about two bisexual housewives? Especially Nandita Das’s character is left high and dry by her husband played by Javed Jaffery. It doesnt shows her unloved by her male partner that drives her to explore the feelings that she never dared to explore - her love for women, she then makes out with her sister-in-law – played by Shabana Azmi. Though Shabana’s character is a late bloomer, Nandita’s character could well be that of a bisexual women.
However, Amisha Patel’s character is married to Karan Khanna, who discovers that he likes men too when he meets Vikram Chatwal. Karan’s character could be interpreted as bisexual.
I first respected Deepika Padukone as an actor only when I saw Cocktail. This film, a love triangle, had all 3 sides intersecting with each other. Deepika is shown as much in love with Diana Penty as much as she adores Saif Ali Khan.
However, the film never spells out the word “bisexual” - it is what we understand when we read the untold story ebbed in the nuances of the screenplay.
The true depiction of bisexuality ever has been in the film Margarita With A Straw. We had to trust my friend Kalki Koechlin with a role that only she could play to perfection. In the author backed role, she comes out to her mom as a bi. Never ever has anyone ever come out so explicitly as bisexual in Indian celluloid. Shonali Bose the director-writer of the film is an out and proud bisexual. I should add that Shonali is the ONLY out and proud bisexual I know in this film industry. Not everyone is able to depict what they are in real life on celluloid. Shonali does that with utmost ease.
Kalki and Shonali have set the bar for bisexuals on screen real high, only time will tell of Jim Sarbh, Ranveer Singh and Deepika Padukone are able to even reach that point in bisexual depiction on screen.
Well, today is bisexuality awareness day. So in optimistic spirit, we remain. :)
(Harish Iyer is an equal rights activist working for the rights of the LGBT community, women, children and animals. ‘Rainbow Man’ is Harish’s regular blog for The Quint)
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Published: 23 Sep 2017,03:05 PM IST